So, I guess, there's no some elegant way to do this, and well, I did in every object delete()
function that makes erase(self)
in every array, that usually can have object in himself.
Also I had an idea about creating some super_array_script.gd
that connected to all arrays and some object to delete himself just should to ask the script about it and he'll delete object everywhere... but my project not so big for that overwhelming, also performance-question is hot, so I'll use aforesaid realization for now.